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Everything You Always Wanted to Know About How to Get a Life, But Didnt Know Whom to Ask
Question 1 "How do I get more time to play?" Answer:Schedule it in.Why? Because if you don't schedule it you will generally let other things have a higher priority and put yourself and a life further down the list.So just write 15 minutes a day, play time into your diary and don't change it for anything.To get started, get your diary NOW and write in one fun thing you have been hanging out to do. Call a friend and tell them that you are going to do it, and DO IT today.Question 2 "What happens when I feel guilty for not working?" Answer:Get over it, and value yourself.Here's why: Emotions like guilt are more damaging to your health than physical stress. So, when you feel guilty for taking a break reward yourself for noticing and tack an extra five minutes playtime onto that break. If you give yourself a hard time for feeling guilty you add more stress. Relax and realise you are human we all need a break. Even your computer gets downtime and goes into "energy save" mode.Question 3 "How do I stop myself getting frustrated with life?" Answer:Realise your expectations are just that, your expectations.Why? Because you only get frustrated when your expectations are not met. Get over that you cannot control everything or everyone. Relax and go with the flow.Ylang Ylang essential oil helps release anger that can come from frustration. It helps you relax and enjoy life your life. Vaporise it at home and work to relax.Question 4 "Where do I get the discipline to say No?" Answer:Realise discipline is easier to handle than regret.Here's why: You cannot turn back time, and regret sucks the life out of you. Saying no to stuff that is draining your energy for life, feeds you the energy to keep saying no.Consider living by the rule "If its hard to do, all the more reason to do it". If you play that game, you have self-discipline and can say NO easily. Question 5 "How do I leave work on time?" Answer:Make you the priority.Why? Because you are the only one in control of your life and it's only you who can make it happen. Start telling yourself and everyone else that you finish and leave work at 5pm.If you keep saying you never get away on time, you won't. Use positive language to get what you want.Question 6 "What happens if I ask for what I want?" Answer:You will gain the respect of others for actually asking for help.Here's why: People admire people who are straight and honest with them. It helps validate how they are also feeling.We all basically want the same things in life, but most people won't show their "humanness" and ask for what they want. If you don't ask in the first place you have no possibility of getting it. So create the possibility and ask for what you want.Question 7 "How do I get a social life?" Answer:Get out and meet people.Why? Hiding from life only fuels the problem. Stop using work as an excuse and an avoidance tactic.Go for quality people and outings not quantity at first.If you need to be in control, bring people to your safe place like maybe home or local café and have a casual dinner or lunch.Question 8 "Why don't I feel deserving of rest time?" Answer:You have too much fun whining about it.Here's why: It's easier to complain about stuff than to do something about it. If you respected yourself and took quality rest time, you would have nothing to whine about. Wow you would be happy. Shock.So, get off your soapbox about not having enough time and not being deserving and get on living the happy life you deserve.Question 9 "How do get more energy for life?" Answer:Do something you enjoy.Why? You always naturally have the energy for the things you love doing. So just change your perception to what you are doing. If you tell yourself you are tired and life is now fun. That is what it will be. Change your perception to what is happening, tell yourself you have all the energy you need and you love life.Question 10 "What happens if I don't plan for play?" Answer:You won't get it.Here's why: It's easier to do something for someone else than for yourself.So schedule it to the tiniest detail like you would a task at work, and focus on the joy that playtime will bring. Planning to this amount of detail feeds you energy and excites you into doing it more often. Write tomorrow's playtime in your diary right now. Question 11 "How do I get balanced?" Answer:Allow yourself to be human.Why? Because no one person or thing is ever perfect. You will drive yourself mad trying to be perfect.Being balanced is noticing if you are not balanced and taking action to rectify it. For instance if you have extra coffee today the world will not end, simply have two extra waters to balance it out.Question 12 "What do I do if I'm in overwhelm?" Answer:Stop and breathe.Here's why: Breathing keeps you alive.It really does. If you don't breathe when overwhelmed, you will never think straight to get yourself out of it.So stop, breathe, see what is really happening compared to what you think is happening and deal with it.Question 13 "How do I take a block of time off?" Answer:Plan ahead and schedule it.Why? Something will always come up otherwise. Commit to your health and wellness. Time away from work is the time you will get your best ideas, because your mind is free to be creative. If you don't already have a break of at least two weeks planned for this year, do it now. If you need to apply for the time off, apply today, then work out where you want to go.Question 14 "What happens when I don't eat properly or I skip meals?" Answer:You increase your chance of losing your life.Here's why: Food is the fuel that keeps you alive. It's that simple, and the first thing that goes hungry is your brain. How can you think straight if your brain is not nourished?See food as a fuel and behave in your eating six days a week and have one FREE DAY a week to let loose.Question 15 "How do I make me the priority?" Answer:You stop making excuses and do it.Why? You deserve to be happy and to enjoy life.Get a close friend to keep you in check. Each time you are copping out and not looking after yourself, ask for their help. And you do the same for them.Be honest with each other, plan for fun and get a life. About Jennifer Jefferies Life Balancing expert Jennifer Jefferies is one of Australia's best-known authors and speakers. Jennifer's simple, practical and proven 7 Steps to Sanity can help bring balance to anyone who wants to have it all without sacrificing their health, sanity or sense of humour along the way.Jennifer is a qualified health practitioner, who speaks to corporations throughout Australia, New Zealand and Southeast Asia, sharing practical real-life strategies that help people to improve their health, wellbeing and productivity by finding balance in their lives. Jennifer has also written numerous books and e-books and life balancing products. You can contact Jennifer at: Jennifer Jefferies International Pty Ltd
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